To anyone and everyone that has an opinion on me, my life, and what I do (or don't do) with my time

Dear (insert your name if you fit the above description),

I'm very sorry if you feel I am not spending my time in the manner that you feel I should.  You see, I'm quite busy.  I'll gladly hand over copies of my calender each month, showing the amount of days/times I actually have free each month.  I work two jobs.  Yes, one is part-time and the other is only a couple of days a month.  But, they take up my time nonetheless.  And the couple-of-days-a-month job requires work outside of there, as I am designing classes to help others grow.  I also run two businesses.  One business is less time consuming, as I'm only an independent distributor for a company.  But, the other one ... that is my business and it requires a LOT of work and dedication to formulate the business and figure out ways to get my name out there.  I co-host a radio show once a week.  The hosting part if fun, but there is work involved as well.  The show ideas are not handed to us - we come up with all of the details ourselves.  Let's not forget that I'm a full-time student as well.  If that's not enough for you, I am also a wife and all that being a wife entails. 

My days, weeks, and months, are all carefully planned out in an effort to keep some level sanity in my life.  My husband and I spend about five hours a week together, on average.  Five hours a week.  You read that correctly.  So, I'm very sorry if I'm not around enough for parties, gatherings, holidays, etc.  I'm sorry if I don't visit or call as much as you would like.  But, I'm not perfect.  And, last I checked ... neither are you. 

If you feel I'm not calling enough or visiting enough, let me ask you this - when was the last time YOU called ME?  When was the last time YOU came to MY house?  I may not be living my life to your standards, but if you can't give an answer of "a week or so" to the two questions I just asked, then you're simply being a hypocrite. 

We are all grown adults.  We are all busy.  (some busier than others)  But, as grown adults there should be some level of understanding and compassion.  I don't question or judge you for not calling or visiting me.  So, the next time you decide to question or judge me for how often my time is spent where you think it should be, I ask you to take a good look in the mirror first. 

With love,
              Me