Showing posts with label growing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label growing. Show all posts

Friday, December 27, 2013

Make 2014 Special!

A new year is upon us and for most, this means resolutions and new ways of living.  Some of us resolve to be better people, to lose weight, to quit smoking, or to save money, amongst other things.  But, the basis of each resolution is change.  Change is required to fully succeed at any resolution we make, and let's be honest - change isn't always easy (take it from someone who isn't fond of change). 

In order to successfully effect change, we must get down to the nitty-gritty and find the core of the problem.  Most often, this core is seated very comfortably in a deep, emotional place that we may not even be aware of.  Would you connect your lack of parental love/support as a child to your current weight or food issues?  Would you connect your inability to find happiness to your negative self-talk?  (Are you even aware of your negative self-talk?!?!)  Would you connect any jealous or envious feelings to your own lack of self-worth?  These examples are not always the cause of each 'issue', but 99% of the time there is an emotional tie to our physical and mental ailments.  We spend a lot of time tending to the 'issue' and not enough time figuring out the trigger, or cause. 

I've been trying to push myself out of my own comfort zone into making necessary changes, and spending a lot of time trying to identify the emotional source of anything I have going on in my own life.  This led me to a great idea - since change is most effective on a deeper level, every service on my "Coaching and Hypnotherapy" page will be listed at a special price for the months of January and February.  All single sessions will have a 25% discount, package pricing and past-life regressions will have a 10% discount.  (The prices listed on my website reflect this discount)

Why not let this year be the year that you finally [insert desired change here] by making the changes from the inside out?  I'm here, when you are ready... 

 

Saturday, December 7, 2013

Living Life According to the Universe

The universe works in a very structured, yet giving, manner.  There are rules and laws that govern the universe and our lives and the more we live in accordance to those laws, the more harmonious our lives are, the more in touch we are with our true selves.  For about ten years or so, I’ve naturally been living my life according to Universal laws and my life has been drastically different since. 

It’s like a natural system of checks and balances.  Where our minds go, our energy follows.  So, if we think about and harbor on negative aspects of life then that is what we find ourselves surrounded by.  If we wish harm on others, we find ourselves in harm’s way quite often.  If we want something, we must act upon it – in both thought and physicality.  Everything always comes full circle – what goes around comes around, so if you ‘go around’ in a positive fashion, that positivity also ‘comes around’ your life.  Everything in the world must have balance, what goes up must also come down.  There is a rhythm to the universe and as long as we are living in accordance to that rhythm, we ourselves, our lives are also in rhythm.  To me, it truly is the simplest thing in the world, yet so many people are not dialed into this concept and awareness. 
We are the only ones who can control what we think, how we act, and how we react.  Keeping our thoughts focused on the things we want, instead of the things we do not want heightens our ability to manifest things in our lives. 
Actively appreciating what we DO have instead of what we do not have keeps our lives in perspective.  Being aware of the things we have that others do not, helps us to keep it relative.  This can be our mental health, our physical health, our spiritual connection, our physical surroundings, our physical assets, our zest for life, etc. 
Understanding that we create our realities, through our thoughts, words, and actions helps us to not become victims of our lives and helps us to hold ourselves responsible for what we do, think, and say. 

Knowing that we must have balance in life, being able to take the good with the bad, understanding that the sun sets and the moon rises, that tides go in and out, that people are good and people are bad.  It IS what we choose to focus on, so why not focus on the good?  Even if we experience a down time or a “bad” situation, we will get through it – we always do.  Everything is happening as it is meant to and we are never given more than we can handle. 
Having an awareness that our thoughts are like silent wishes, so should we ‘think’ about wanting a new house, we have planted that seed, as a wish to grow in our world.  The more we feed energy to that thought (wish) the more of a reality it becomes.  It may not happen overnight, but it will happen – again, when it is meant to. 
While Universal laws seem to focus on the mental reality of our thoughts shaping our worlds, there is a strong spiritual connection.  We must connect to and understand the Universe at large and Divine timing.  We must be fully aware of our physical beings, as homes for our souls and treat our physical bodies as such.  Taking care of and tending to our needs, wants, and desires.  We must recognize this in others as well.  If we, as a “world” recognized each other on a soul level, can you imagine how different the world would be?  We wouldn’t have the jealousy, the envy, the competition, the greed … we would see so much more love, acceptance, compassion, forgiveness, and understanding.  I’d much rather live in the positive aspects of the world.  Wouldn't you?   
 

 

 

Monday, December 2, 2013

Healing Through the Mind-Body Connection


A healthy soul is a happy soul.  This, of course, doesn’t mean that souls with physical, mental, or emotional ailments are not happy.  It does, however, imply that souls suffering from physical, mental, or emotional ailments or illnesses may have some underlying distress or unhappiness that deserves some attention.   

Louise Hay talks of this very thing in her book, Heal Your Body A-Z.  She talks about her own experience with cancer of the vagina, how her background of rape and physical abuse at a young age could have been the causing factor of the manifestation of the cancer, and also how she healed herself through a process, starting with clearing old patterns.   

Old patterns, thoughts, and behaviors that are so deeply a part of one’s soul may be the root cause of many mental and physical ailments that  manifest.  Anger, resentment, and fear are all emotions that do a great job of festering and eventually erupting, both physically and mentally.   

There are many ways to recognize and overcome these thought patterns that create so much disruption.  The following guideline is simply that – a guideline to be able to recognize patterns.  Always consult a trusted medical physician with any ailments and illnesses, and with the recent surge in holistic healthcare, there may even be a holistic specialist that can be consulted.   

  • Trust your gut.  If your body is telling you that something just isn’t right, trust that feeling.
  • Check-in with yourself on a regular basis.  This could be daily, weekly, or monthly (although the more often and consistent, the better).  When a negative emotion arises, stop and allow that emotion to be FELT.  Holding it back or stuffing it down is what leads to the patterns and behaviors, and often-times illness.  Acknowledge the feeling.  Spend some time with it.  Get to know it.  Understand why it is surfacing and from where.  If it is anger – Is the anger really directed toward the person or situation?  Or is the person or situation reminding you of something from the past and THAT is what is triggering it?  Recognize the source.  
  • Self-Care.  There are many ways to practice self-care (a whole other list could be started for this topic alone).  A few very easy ways to care for oneself are sea salt baths, meditation, yoga, massage, dancing (even if people are watching, but way more fun if done while home alone), sufficient rest, and healthy eating habits. 
  • Enlist help.  Find a trusted friend to talk regularly with.  Hire a life coach.  Go to counseling.  Find healthy outlets that give the repressed emotions and feelings a way out, without hurting anyone, including yourself. 
  •  LOVE yourself.  Love.  Yourself.  For every perfection and imperfection. 

Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.  ~World Health Organization, 1948
 
*published in inSpirit magazine June 2013

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Growing Pains

We all experience pain as we grow.  As children, this pain shows up as physical pain, usually in our limbs.  But, what about the growing pains we experience as adults?  The less talked about emotional pains? 

For me, this shows up as an energetic slap-in-the-face by those I thought I was close to (friends, family), who are flat out unsupportive of my growth.  (Please don't mistake that as me wanting recognition or my ego stroked, because that is soooo not my style)  I'm sure many people can empathize with me on this.  Think about the times when you've had something exciting happen for, or to, you.  You, naturally, want to share that news with family and friends.  I mean, you do need someone to share in the excitement with, right?!  And how did it feel when one of those friends or family members didn't exactly share in the excitement the way you'd hoped?  Not too good, right?  

I'll share a story ... 

When Shannon and I were doing our radio show, we naturally shared the link to the show each week on Facebook and Twitter.  We got the word out ourselves, and it was nice when some of our friends and family shared the links for the show on their pages as well.  It wasn't so nice when friends and family consistently shared links for other friends' radio shows, but not ours ... ever.  Again, it's not that either one of us "needed" anyone to help us get the word out (we both have pretty big mouths), but we both had to take a step back and acknowledge the hurt feelings we experienced, brought on by the fact that people we thought were our "friends" took time to share and brag about other people they knew airing radio shows, but never us.  Thank goodness we are both fairly self-aware so that we were able to quickly recognize that the anger we (or maybe just me) initially felt about this was really hurt feelings in realizing that maybe someone wasn't as good of a friend as we thought.  

Fast forward to now and I have exciting and fun news to share, so I naturally shared on my Facebook page.  I mean, it is pretty exciting when you have an article published in an international publication, especially since I never really expected it to happen when I submitted the article.  It's even more exciting when my school features me in their blog, because of this!  But, it is also hurtful when the same friends and family members who blatantly didn't support me in other endeavors, continue in their unsupportiveness.  Did I expect anything different?  No, not necessarily.  I know that when I expect things of people, I open the doors for disappointment, so I like to leave that expectation at the door.  But, it is still nice to know that your friends and family have your back and are happy for you/proud of you/cheering you on.  

So, what do you do when you feel this lack of support, whether energetically, physically, or emotionally?  You put your big girl pants on and get over it!  Acknowledge the hurt feelings and then move on.  I was warned a few years ago about the reaction (or lack thereof), I would receive from others when I started to grow.  I was told that I have people around me that would simply not be happy for me and to not take it personally.  Thank goodness for that nice tidbit, because it helped me realize some very important things.  My growth and the lack of support coming from certain friends and family members actually has nothing to do with me and everything to do with them.  If someone isn't happy for you, it is up to them to figure out why they are happy for you.  It's up to you to keep on keeping on and stay in your happy place, where you do your best work. 

It is unfortunate and disheartening to find out that people aren't there for you (typically this happens when you are down and out, and also happens on the flip side), but how else would you know that perhaps you are no longer in alignment with certain people in your life?  It's times like these that you truly find out who is there for you and who isn't; Who really supports your success or sympathizes with your demise. 

And these are the growing pains of our lives.